Vulnerability is 'being willing to express the truth no matter what,' Oprah Winfrey says. Watch as she expands beautifully on this important way of life:
If you’re curious about the best way to work with me, we should chat.
Here’s an opportunity. The way I work is to have a FREE session with you first. This is not a coaching session.
This is a strategic unearthing session – so I (we) can work out where you’d like to be if it all worked out, and where you are now and what it is that stops you getting closer, and if I’m the person to help you. And only then will I offer you the best pathway forward that I see. And I don’t do hard sales. But I will offer you an opportunity, and you can choose (or not) and either will be OK with me.
The work is relevant if you have a soul-based business or business idea that you want to grow. The work is relevant if you feel lost and life lacks meaning, even though you are always busy. The work is relevant if you know there is more for you and it just won’t go away, and you can’t settle down and accept that where you are now is all there is.
I know all the plethora of excuses that get in the way of dreams. Too busy. Too tired. No time. No energy. Too many kids. Too hard. Too uncomfortable.
If you’re ready to put all that aside (for now) and do something, then all we need is 1 hour. Uninterrupted. A notebook and a cuppa.
And you know what?
The best way to figure out what is going to be the best experience / path / building block for you, is to talk to you about it.
I can help you figure out what you want. And we’ll easily be able to figure out if what I do fits with what you want. And if you and I are a good fit. I won’t offer it to you otherwise.
Purpose is a funny thing. You may not not what yours is but here it calling like a never ending dissatisfaction at the end of another busy day. You may not even have time to consider purpose or how it fits for you, right in the middle of the Groundhog Day of survival mode. Survival mode is the number 1 purpose-stealer and dream-killer of all times. Maybe your self-esteem is flailing, maybe relationship turmoil is taking up a lot of time or maybe the past just keeps trying to swallow you up. Maybe the dream doesn’t feel possible or maybe it’s just terrifying.
You’ve just been through (another) shitty break up. You’re obsessing over what he’s doing and trying to work out what went wrong and what’s wrong with you. Or you’ve been single for a long time and think life is easier without men, but sometimes (often) you feel lonely and wonder if maybe you’ll be alone forever. Or maybe you’re in a relationship but feel something is missing and you know you’ve felt like this before and you can’t figure out of the problem is you or him. The Gap Year Intensive (it doesn’t really take a year) is about committing to you. Amongst other things.
You have a soul-based business that needs some tweaking and mentoring to get it to the place where you really want it to be. Finding time to work ON your business gets eaten up by working IN your business and it turns out the dream business you thought you were creating is actually eating you up. Burn out is a possibility, there’s all this stuff that needs doing but you can’t prioritise which bit and when and you often feel unsupported and like there’s no time to do everything. Gracious juggling often ends in balls being thrown in the faces of the audience and the thing that keeps getting put aside is you and the dream you’ve been trying to create. Retreat is the place for you. Space, time, nourishment and guidance.
I believe my purpose is the centre of everything.
And when I’m back in the centre of everything – in the centre of me – I have more energy, and patience and more good humour and I’m a better mother and a nicer girlfriend and I’m still a shit-hot housewife and I can multi-task like a mofo – but it’s between shoes and magic, and arguments and building webinars, and lunch-boxes and coaching magnificence, and a conversation about parent teacher interviews and a conversations about digital marketing. It’s reading Shrek 2 (the really fricking long, super boring retelling the movie version) out load to the kids before bed and then a novel about climate change and butterflies and a book about being a TED speaker. It’s getting kids ready for their first day back at school and doing hair and taking the blame for the 3 week old mouldy orange is Miss 8’s bag, and kissing them goodbye and heading our for coffee coaching (because the studio is too full of people and beds for coaching) and meetings about running training programs and doing a sales call in the sunshine at the foreshore and wearing active wear all day and not making an exercise class, and going for a quick walk after work with the guy and then damage control when we get home between a couple of kids, and washing all the conditioner out of the bath they used in the Barbie’s hair, and making sausage rolls and vegetarian, gluten free sausage rolls, and monitoring dessert and stories and bedtime for kids, and answering some stuff in the Facebook groups and watching Rake with my guy while he sleeps (even though it was his idea). And sleeping. And getting up at 6.30am because the only way to have the day is embrace it. Shower first. Be dressed before them and ready for whatever the morning brings.
That’s how you graciously juggle my love, and somewhere up there in the space above this is a chance for you to find your way there.
To truly embrace life and all that is possible for you.
It’s not about doing more. It’s about being more while you do what you do. It’s about knowing what to do and what to say no too. It’s about you being happy first.
Interview with Nicola Moras – here’s a video of me talking to Nicola Moras about what I do, if you’d prefer the version where I write the story with my mouth.
Here’s what people have said about working with me:
I’m just writing to say an enormous THANK YOU for your amazing Incubators program. It was a business coaching course like no other. I loved the mix of practical business advice alongside personal development coaching to overcome all the mental ‘crap’ that gets in the way of success. After completing the eight-week program I feel so fired up about living my passion and sharing it with the world. Without having done the course I suspect I would have given my dream a half-hearted attempt before giving up. But with your guidance I’ve received the support, encouragement and self-belief to give it my all. And I’m absolutely loving it.Samille MitchellFreelance Journalist & Photographer, Inspired
I’ve spent many years waiting for my dream to simply arrive on my doorstep, neatly packaged up like something I’d ordered online. What actually arrived into my life was Fleur who is giving me the tools and courage to get out there and start working on my dream. I’m only halfway through an 8week course but in that 4 weeks have achieved so much and it feels bloody awesome.Kate TonkinFood Consultant, Real Food Real You
Doing the Incubator, I admitted that my constant worry/belief that I am not good enough, not doing enough to help my child, not good enough for my child, not doing enough for my family and for the business. All to the point where I have felt at times that I’m dying inside.I have learned that I have got to set myself FREE from the doubt and negativity. And LIVE and allow myself to be awesome and wonderful and loved and loving.C2015
I never knew that having my own business would really make me feel alive out there. But it has. I realise now that by going to doctors and specialists and kinesiology’s and reflexologists and psychologists, I was just looking for a way to get fixed. But I couldn’t be fixed because I wasn’t broken, I just hadn’t found my magic. I hadn’t found my voice. I didn’t value or love myself anymore so how could anyone else? Doing Incubator has introduced me to real people that have their own stories and these stories sort of sound like mine; and I don’t judge them for it. So why was I so hard on judging myself? By owning my own story and being honest and real and just me, I have found clients, friends, and women and men don’t hide behind the pretence of a perfect life. They are just doing their thing, being ALIVE OUT THERE, by making mistakes sometimes, by being fearful, and feeling terrified, and trying anyway, being so bloody brave.C2016
As I sat on Fleur's couch in her studio I listened to the words that she said. And the words haven't left me. I suppose it was over 12 months ago now. And the words she said still keep coming up. She said: "But can you forgive yourself?" And I think I probably scoffed at her - was I blaming myself for this? I'm a smart woman, you can't think that I possibly ... oh hang on. Yeh. I really was and I didn't even know it. Self-loathing, blame, guilt, hatred, despising myself - it was all I had done for such a long time and I didn't know there was a different way of being. But my bloody gracious good Lord above!! Thank you for directing me to Fleur and thank you Fleur for giving me the tools to sort my shit out. It was always inside me, just like the mumma hen said.CF2016