Purpose is a funny thing. You may not not what yours is but here it calling like a never ending dissatisfaction at the end of another busy day. You may not even have time to consider purpose or how it fits for you, right in the middle of the Groundhog Day of survival mode. Survival mode is the number 1 purpose-stealer and dream-killer of all times. Maybe your self-esteem is flailing, maybe relationship turmoil is taking up a lot of time or maybe the past just keeps trying to swallow you up. Maybe the dream doesn’t feel possible or maybe it’s just terrifying.
You’ve just been through (another) shitty break up. You’re obsessing over what he’s doing and trying to work out what went wrong and what’s wrong with you. Or you’ve been single for a long time and think life is easier without men, but sometimes (often) you feel lonely and wonder if maybe you’ll be alone forever. Or maybe you’re in a relationship but feel something is missing and you know you’ve felt like this before and you can’t figure out of the problem is you or him. The Gap Year Intensive (it doesn’t really take a year) is about committing to you. Amongst other things.
You have a soul-based business that needs some tweaking and mentoring to get it to the place where you really want it to be. Finding time to work ON your business gets eaten up by working IN your business and it turns out the dream business you thought you were creating is actually eating you up. Burn out is a possibility, there’s all this stuff that needs doing but you can’t prioritise which bit and when and you often feel unsupported and like there’s no time to do everything. Gracious juggling often ends in balls being thrown in the faces of the audience and the thing that keeps getting put aside is you and the dream you’ve been trying to create. Retreat is the place for you. Space, time, nourishment and guidance.
I believe my purpose is the centre of everything.
And when I’m back in the centre of everything – in the centre of me – I have more energy, and patience and more good humour and I’m a better mother and a nicer girlfriend and I’m still a shit-hot housewife and I can multi-task like a mofo – but it’s between shoes and magic, and arguments and building webinars, and lunch-boxes and coaching magnificence, and a conversation about parent teacher interviews and a conversations about digital marketing. It’s reading Shrek 2 (the really fricking long, super boring retelling the movie version) out load to the kids before bed and then a novel about climate change and butterflies and a book about being a TED speaker. It’s getting kids ready for their first day back at school and doing hair and taking the blame for the 3 week old mouldy orange is Miss 8’s bag, and kissing them goodbye and heading our for coffee coaching (because the studio is too full of people and beds for coaching) and meetings about running training programs and doing a sales call in the sunshine at the foreshore and wearing active wear all day and not making an exercise class, and going for a quick walk after work with the guy and then damage control when we get home between a couple of kids, and washing all the conditioner out of the bath they used in the Barbie’s hair, and making sausage rolls and vegetarian, gluten free sausage rolls, and monitoring dessert and stories and bedtime for kids, and answering some stuff in the Facebook groups and watching Rake with my guy while he sleeps (even though it was his idea). And sleeping. And getting up at 6.30am because the only way to have the day is embrace it. Shower first. Be dressed before them and ready for whatever the morning brings.
That’s how you graciously juggle my love, and somewhere up there in the space above this is a chance for you to find your way there.
To truly embrace life and all that is possible for you.
It’s not about doing more. It’s about being more while you do what you do. It’s about knowing what to do and what to say no too. It’s about you being happy first.